Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Beautiful & Colorful Photos to Brighten Up Your Day

♡ Sweet love notes at random places

♡ Colorful & chic clothes

♡ Lazying under the blanket on a cold day

♡ Being sweet

♡ Romantic camping outing ♡

Spread love ♡

Friday, October 1, 2010

How To Get Out of a Rut in a Relationship

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore"

Ask yourself:
Has your partner dropped this emotional nuclear bomb on you after dating for several years?

Do you ever feel like the one you love just doesn't understand you anymore and you don't know how to fix a relationship for the better?

Are you in a relationship that is stagnant - a relationship that is not going anywhere?

What do you do after the honeymoon stage of a relationship has passed?

I'm sure some of you had this problem before. Two people in love should grow together through these experiences. Many relationships start out wonderfully with excitement and joy. Then before long, many begin to wonder where the love has gone. Life is full of ups and downs. Couples fight all the time, whether you are on the verge of ending a long term relationship or it's because of a small misunderstanding. Even though it seems that the crisis appears suddenly and out of nowhere, in many cases it does not. A relationship crisis usually builds slowly over time with one person caught completely off guard, and the other claiming that they are tired of trying to be Ms/Mr Fix It without any sign of change. Thus, many are shocked when they find themselves in this situation, wondering what went wrong and what can they possibly do to save their relationship.

In relationship, there's always a point of getting tired, especially when that person is unintentionally making you feel worthless.

Stop a moment and think about it. Do you just let it fail without even trying? After a fight, some grow closer but some grow further apart. Relationships need regular maintenance, or they'll break down. If you find yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere, it is time for you to evaluate. Try to make some changes before it's too late. If you don't, nothing changes. Then you are just wasting time and hurting yourself. After it gets worst, you start thinking about leaving and not trying to mend the broken pieces.

Remember that many relationships are repairable. You have to identify the problem in order to find the solution. A relationship is a job that you can't ever retire from. Once you stop working, it stops working. A relationship rut is when as a couple, you begin to feel as if you are stuck, sort of going through the motions and not getting anywhere. These are some of the examples:
  • Doing the same thing over & over again and it not being enjoyable
  • Arguing and finding faults just for something to do
  • Having the same conversation over and over again
  • Ignoring the problem and trying to avoid talking about it
  • Having that strange sense of "relationship deja vu" - we've been here before
To find the solution, couples need to talk things out and identify the problem. Be honest and open up so that both of you know where the problem lies. It is possible that one of you may not be willing to work on solutions. Your partner may not even feel there is a problem and is comfortable with things the way they are. The problem may lie within you and not the relationship itself. Often people feel disappointed when their partner stops sharing their interest. But sometimes, it's not about sharing activities together, but resentment, emotions, breakdown in communications and feeling taken for granted.

The way to get out of the rut is by:
  • Remembering what it was that first attracted you to this person in the first place
  • Focus on each others needs and put in the necessary time and effort.
  • Make a list of all the things you like to do for fun. Then pick one that you may not have done in a very long time.
  • Use your creativity! One way to do this would be to brainstorm all the crazy, absurd, and ridiculous ideas you can think of, that you would never do.
  • Spend quality time alone doing the things you enjoy
  • Do some of the things you may have enjoyed as a child: buy a coloring book, some play dough, put on some roller skates, etc.
Ladies, whatever you plan to do, just don't act without thinking. This includes taking this dangerous steps:
  • Telling him that you’ll change to save a relationship
    (Let him do it, action speaks louder than words)
  • Saying that you love him to save a relationship
    (Do not force, it's attraction)
  • Trying to change him to save a relationship
    (Make him want to change by himself)
  • Acting out of desperation to save a relationship
    (Show him that you have high self esteem and you're confident!)

    .....The last thing you should be doing is . .
  • To make him see how much you value and appreciate him
    (Make him think hard about the value of your love)

I believe that every problem has a solution. If you think that your relationship is worth the time and effort, don't wait for your partner to change. It might take ages. Try changing the way things are. Don't let all that you have worked so hard for in the past, disappear before your eyes. Getting your relationship back to the way it needs to be will take some work and the knowledge to achieve it, is in the grasp of your hand. Here are a few suggestions:
  • Sacrifice and throw away your ego.
  • Don't give up hope, if all you feel is hopelessness.
  • Make your partner fall in love with you again and take back your relationship, the way it was intended to be.
  • Let him feel as though he is not doing anything to save the relationship and you on the other hand is doing all you can to make it happen.
  • Stop being too needy and clingy. Give him the opportunity to miss you. That way when he finally realize the changes, it will bring him closer to you.
  • Learn to survive the never ending wind of change. It can determine your longevity and love that you have for one another.
  • Patience will certainly be a virtue in this because even though you are making forward progress, it will sometimes come in baby steps.
  • Think long and hard about what you've done recently that may have caused him to pull back from you.

What if .. you could save your relationship by getting your partner to fall hopelessly in love with you, all over again?

What if .. you could save your relationship and create a long-lasting bond that would make him commit to you forever?

"One of the hardest things in life is figuring out when it is time to stop,
and when it is time to try harder"

"Waiting has its limits, so don't make people wait just because you know they will"

"Unspoken thought gets you no where. Speak it out.
Silence isn't always golden,sometimes it can be a burden"

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Sometimes it's the little things in life that matter the most.

"You might not think the little things really matter, but in reality; the little things are everything"

Sometimes, we are so concerned about the big things in life that we often miss the little ones that makes us all different from other people. It is those daily occurrences that really make our lives go around. Life is a series of ups and downs. As we are busy looking for the perfect job, partner or amount of money that we think will bring us happiness, we often forget the little things in life that truly makes us happy. Those are the things that help us through the hard times. Nevertheless, some people take things and their loved ones for granted. It is very difficult to explain yourself what actually makes life worth living. Sure, that a luxurious spa treatment or a shopping spree could make us feel good for a while but what about the next day or the day after that? Do you think spending everyday could make you feel good at the end of the day? None of these things will make you happy, yup, they are nice but they are not long lasting deep fulfillment. Not only it is important to recognize and appreciate every moment that brings you joy, but it is also important to remember those moments.

What were the moments that you felt happy and pleasant for in a day? Was it a phone call from your best friend or just walking by the river with a flower in your hair? Writing down your happiest moments in a memory book is an excellent way to access whenever you need a happiness boost. Trust me, it helps. Happiness is hidden in almost every aspect of our lives and we just need to look for it and trigger it more often.

Here is the list of my happy moments. If you'd like to share yours, please submit in the comment box.

  • Watching a beautiful sunset
  • Freedom to go places
  • Knowing that somebody loves me
  • When I feel free to be myself
  • A nice cozy house to live in
  • Being healthy and having the energy to do things
  • The miracle of the internet
  • Reading beautiful quotes on Twitter
  • Getting comments on my blog from people I don't even know
  • Buying a gift for someone who does not expect it
  • Spending time looking for greeting cards in the card section
  • Catching up with an old friend I haven't heard from in a long time
  • Hot soup on a cold day
  • Good supermarkets to shop in
  • The ability to write
  • The soft skin of a brand new baby
  • Plenty of clothes and shoes to wear
  • Traveling to different places to see different things and different people
  • Laughing so hard it hurts
  • Buying an outfit I know I look good in
  • Star gazing
  • Winning an argument
  • Random acts of kindness
  • Getting a package delivered to me
  • The feeling I get after exercising
  • Finding that “perfect gift” for someone
  • Drawing and coloring
  • The smell of baked cookies
  • Painting on a rainy day
  • Friends who know everything about you, and like you anyway
  • Flavored frozen yogurt
  • The receiver's face when opening presents
  • Excellent quotes
  • Meeting people from foreign countries
  • Surprises
  • Doing charitable things
  • Making other people smile
  • Baking
  • Rainbows
  • Jumping out from behind corners and scaring people
  • London
  • Decorating for parties
  • Making sandcastles
  • Being given bunches of flowers
  • Candlelight
  • Wrapping presents
  • Candlelit bubble baths
  • Blowing bubbles
  • Desserts
  • Getting dressed up
  • Cuddles
  • Playing hide and seek in shops
  • Chocolate souffles
  • Going to cinema
  • The people around me being happy
  • Shiny things
  • Watching the clouds
  • Hand written letters
  • Tea parties
  • Going new places
  • Have a good workout
  • Old classic Disney movies
  • Reading a good book
  • Something to look forward to
  • Taking pictures
  • Forgiveness
  • Hearing songs that I used to love but forgot about
  • Being a shoulder to cry on
  • Watching people be strong when it seems like it would be hard
  • Finding old pictures/notes/journal entries
  • Adrenaline rushes
  • Remembering dreams
  • Feeling needed and loved
  • Being photographed
  • Crawling into freshly clean sheets and quilt
  • Feeling like I have endless possibilities
  • Dreaming about getting married
  • Beautiful fresh flowers
  • Making wall arts
  • Spending time on artsy fartsy stuff
  • Cotton candy
  • Fridge full of groceries
  • Doing grocery shopping alone
  • Warm breezy days
  • Bakeries
  • Balloons
  • Having full tank of gas
  • Reminiscing on childhood memories
  • Pillow talks
  • Singing in the shower
  • Smiles from strangers
  • A good jog in the evening
  • Road trips with no apparent destinations
  • Making pictures in my head out of the clouds
  • People watching at the mall
  • Korean dramas reruns
  • Late night phone calls
  • Listening to the sounds of nature
  • Surprise packages in the mail
  • Spending time with my grandparents
  • Keeping my planner organized
  • Having a whole day to do absolutely nothing with my sister
  • Having my own apartment
  • Long, hot showers
  • Laughing with friends during fish spa
  • Watching videos that make me cry
  • Pretending the music I am listening is like part of the soundtrack to a movie about me
  • Having late night pancakes
  • Winning at pokies machine
  • Being silly in the photo booth
  • Feeling the breeze on my face
  • Laying on the beach
  • Making people laugh
  • Getting kisses from loved ones

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Ramadhan Al-Mubarak

Hello friends,

After all the busy weeks selling my things, packing, running errands and many more, finally I'm back for good in Penang and that means it's a whole new chapter in life. I am not really looking forward to working life but I guess change is good. Right? I am missing Melbourne already. My friends, my house and the life there. Currently I feel like I'm on holiday and will be going back to Melbourne soon. Oh snap back to reality, Feesha! Anyways, I just want to take this opportunity to wish everyone Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan and happy fasting. It is a time for contemplation spirituality and brotherhood.

May Allah grant us strength and health during this month, shower His blessings and grant us forgiveness. Amen.

“The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur'an, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong).” (Al-Baqarah 2:185)


Sunday, July 11, 2010

Busy busy me!

Hello friends.. Sorry- no new updates. I've been busy lately. Mummy's here for holiday/spending my last few days here in Melbourne and to help me pack. Will update soon. I promise. Stay tuned. Hugs and kisses


Wednesday, June 30, 2010

100 Things I Like / Enjoy

1. Talking on the phone for hours & actually falling asleep.
2. Sleeping especially on a rainy day.
3. Spending time with my parents, grandparents, siblings, cousins, aunties and friends.
4. Horror movies although I would close my eyes and ears most of the time.
5. Reading old messages from my loved ones. Brings back memories.
6. Talking non-stop, chatting and laughing all the time.
7. Lazying around in my pyjama.
8. Making plans.
9. Wasting time doing nothing.
10. Playing peek-a-boo with my cat.
11. Cooking & Baking.
12. Shopping for hours non-stop.
13. Traveling.
14. Having a cup of hot coffee with biscuit or bread.
15. Animals especially cats. They are just adorable.
16. The smell of baked cookies & cakes.
17. Playing Tennis.
18. Daydreaming. Yeah, I daydream alot.
19. Long hot bath.. soothing!
20. Swimming. Cooling!
21. Singing my lungs out.
22. Attention from my loved ones.
23. Being Pampered.
24. Diamonds & Bling-blings.
25. Vanilla ice-cream and vanilla frappucino.
26. Cycling.
27. Artsy fartsy & Retro.
28. Fast Cars.
29. Handbags, Clutch, Oversized Sunnies, Leggings, Jeans, Skirts, Shoes and Clothing.
30. Beautiful Bedsheets & Quilt covers.
31. Cosmetics and whatnot.
32. Photography & Beautiful Pictures.
33. Hair treatment & care.
34. Perfume.
35. Flowers - Roses and Daisies.
36. Healthy Lifestyle. Exercising
37. Anything Romantic.
38. Dessert - ice creams, cakes, puddings, chocolates & candy.
39. Music - Relaxing / Indie/ Rock/ Oldies.
40. Strolling along the beach. Breathtaking!
41. Fashion in and out.
42. Fitness - Aerobics, Yoga, Dancing, Hula Hooping, Mat workout.
43. Morning Walk.
44. Cold hard cash
45. Home-made cheese & chocolate cake! (Mom's, the best.)
46. Karaoke with friends.
47. Bowling although I suck.
48. Tennis tournaments.
49. Pool Game.
50. Poetry & Quotes.
51. Outing.
52. Pretty Jackets & Comfy Boots.
53. Going to the movies.
54. Looking back at old photos & reminiscing the good times. Memories!
55. Sticky-pix. Monthly fix with the bf.
56. Driving alone with full-blast music.
57. Dressing up.
58. Partying and planning for parties.
59. Drawing and sketching when I can’t sleep or when I’m stress.
60. Listening to ‘Surah-surah Al-Quran’ by Imam Sudais’.
61. Watching TV and DVD for hours.
62. Giving all sorts of names to my cats.
63. Window shopping although I have no intention in buying anything.
64. Sports.
65. Interior Design.
66. Family Day!
67. Vacations with friends.
68. Writing journals and diaries.
69. Road Trips.
70. Spa. Relaxing!
71. Nasi Kandar. =P
73. Live bands.
74. Reading the Holy Quran. Easeful!
75. SMS-ing all the time.
76. Handphones and PDA-s.
77. Trying new things.
78. Shopping for grocery alone / with my parents. I lykee..
79. Earings, Necklaces, Bracelets.
80. Going to the library. Peaceful!
81. Family Picnics / Gathering.
82. Raya Celebration.
83. Raya songs. Makes me feel excited!
84. Writing Blogs & Doing Surveys.
85. Long-distance calls. Rinduuuuu!
86. Girls Night Out / Girls Day Out.
87. Creative arts.
88. Fine Dining.
89. Kebaya-s & Batik-s
90. Beautiful Weddings
91. Lotion and Scented Candles.
92. Piano Pieces.
93. Home Decorations.
94. Good Conversation.
95. Good cup of hot chocolate.
96. Makan late night. After Supper. Selagi tak tido, makan je keja. Hish!
97. Strawberries with chocolate-dip & chocolate fondue.
98. Movie Marathon.
99. Instead of sleeping, end up talking to my sis on the bed till wee hours. Fun, I MISS!
100. Falling In LOVE.