Life after I say "I do"...

I've heard that the first year of marriage is always the tough one. Now that I'm married, I started to believe it. Not that we have problems with each other or argue on small things. We are very much in love, romantic as ever and even acting crazy in front of one another all the time.

The first year of married life might be one of the most difficult you'll ever face because getting married is like moving to a foreign country. It may seem that way because of the changes and adaptation to the new lifestyle. Mostly due to the transition of actually being married, we as husband and wife learn about each other more and more and also what it actually means to be married. This is the stage where we have to learn to adjust to each other's habit and attitudes. But as time goes by and we both learn to adjust one another, then it'll get easier.

Marriage is about being secure in our relationship. While being engaged was a big commitment, marriage is so much more permanent, comfy and secure. We've gotten a lot more settled in our careers, financial, home and such, which probably has more to do with "growing up" than getting married. But all in all, our life after marriage is a breeze. We learned and are still learning to give each other space when we need it, find time and make the most of it with family, working out budgeting money together, make decisions together, not fighting about small things, watching what we say and how we say things to each other and more! That last one was a big one for us as sometimes we don't think about how other people interpret our words and attitude.

I'm not all the way through the first year (just 2 months in at this point), but it really doesn't seem that hard to me at all. Maybe I am lucky because I have a caring, sweet, understanding husband. Alhamdulillah we didn't really have a hard time or struggle with things. We just had to adjust a bit to make out schedules fit better with the other person which it wasn't anything I'd consider hard. It's even easier for me because my husband is the only child. :) As of for my side, you know I have cool siblings.. so there is no problem at all. 
There wasn't lots of adjustments because we share the same interests & personality. For me, marriage consists of all this:-

Learn how to suck it up and say sorry regardless of who started the argument. 
Saying sorry is an easy way to end it. But when you do apologize, make sure you know what you're apologizing about.
Don't be a brick wall in an argument. 
Don't just sit there and say nothing, staring into space with a grumpy look on your face. Talk! It will help a lot.
You are a partnership 50/50.
Give and take esp. when both of you are working.  Sometimes you cook and clean, sometimes he does. 
There are ways to say what's on your mind. 
Think before you say something. Pause for thought.

Throw some thought at gifts.

Think of what she/he likes. What makes her/him smile or feel good inside. The simple things work.

Learn to live day in and day out with someone who was raised with different habits, moral and rules.

Adjustment -  for each passing day, we smooth those edges out until we have the result we'd been hoping for. 

Marriage can be hard. Just hang on! There will be good times and bad times, and for us the good times are worth the argument. 

Just treat your wife like you’d want to be treated yourself…with affection, love and daily attention. You're in it together forever, so you make things work. Life isn't always romantic and exciting but you have to appreciate the little things in life that you can be happy!

Lastly, don't forget to hug and kiss each other and snuggle whenever you can :)